Feeling Burnt Out? Maybe It’s Time to Look After Yourself Too

Ask most men why they don’t take time for themselves and the answer is usually the same: “I just don’t have time.” Work, family, responsibilities — it all piles up. Exercise slips down the list, eating well becomes an afterthought, and rest? That’s something for later… maybe.

But here’s the thing — is it really about time? Or is something else going on?

For many men I work with, it turns out the real issue is guilt. That quiet, nagging feeling that says, “I should be doing more,” or “I can’t take a break — people are relying on me.”

You might not even realise it’s guilt. It just shows up as pushing through, carrying the load, putting everyone else first — and ignoring your own needs in the process.

Let’s be honest. Most men don’t complain. You get on with it. You take care of the family, handle the to-do list, keep things ticking over. But quietly, stress builds. Resentment creeps in. You feel tired, irritable, drained — and you don’t always know why.

Here’s a scenario I hear a lot:

You’re up early, helping with the kids before heading out the door for work. Your days are full — meetings, pressure, deadlines. You get home, and there’s still dinner, homework, bathtime, clearing up. You try to be present with your partner, maybe have a drink or watch some TV. But really, you’re wiped out. And the next day, it starts all over again.

Sound familiar?

Now imagine this: what happens if you crash? What happens if stress turns into burnout, or your body starts to give out? Who picks up the pieces then?

The truth is, you’re a central pillar in your home life — and you can’t keep giving if you’re running on empty. It’s not weak to take care of yourself. It’s wise. It’s responsible. It’s necessary.

You wouldn’t run your car without fuel, skip every service, and expect it to keep performing. Yet many men treat their own bodies and minds that way — until something breaks.

Often, it’s the simple stuff that makes the biggest difference. Getting more sleep. Eating better. Moving your body. Having even 30 minutes a day just for you — whether it’s exercise, fresh air, a hobby, or some headspace — can lift your mood and ease that quiet pressure you’re carrying around.

And if those basics aren’t enough? That’s OK too.

Sometimes we need a bit more support — and there’s no shame in that. Reaching out for help with your mental health isn’t a weakness. In fact, it’s one of the strongest things you can do. It means you care enough about yourself and those around you to take action before things get worse.

So if life feels heavy, start small. Look after yourself like you matter — because you do.

And if you need a hand, you’re not alone.