You trust your partner. You know they’re not doing anything wrong. But you can’t stop thinking about their past — who they were with, what they did, and how it makes you feel now. Maybe it’s driving you mad. You hate feeling like this, but the thoughts won’t let go.

That’s retroactive jealousy.

You wouldn’t run your car without fuel, skip every service, and expect it to keep performing. Yet many men treat their own bodies and minds that way — until something breaks.

Menopause isn’t a problem to be solved—it’s a transformation, a rite of passage. She’s becoming a new version of herself, one that doesn’t have time for nonsense. Support her, love her and keep showing up.

You don’t need to be an expert in hormones or get everything right - she’s not expecting perfection. But showing up with a bit of patience, a bit of humour, and a lot of kindness? That goes a long way.

the difference between sex and intimacy—two things that are often lumped together but aren’t the same. While sex is the physical act, intimacy is about connection, trust, and emotional closeness. Many men struggle with the latter, often feeling pressure to "perform" rather than to connect.